How do you know if it’s time to have a baby? This seems to be the big question when you are planning a family and thinking of getting pregnant. There is so much to take into consideration and prepare for when you have a baby that you want to make sure you are ready, right? Well… while this may be true, overthinking it could be your worst enemy.
My husband and I have been together for 8 years, and married for almost 3. We had always known that one day we wanted a family. After we got married, the question became when does “one day” become today? Waiting for the perfect time for getting pregnant may have you waiting forever. You try to tell yourself that you want to live in the perfect house, you want to have X amount of money saved, you want to accomplish certain goals, etc, etc, etc,… The list could go on and on.
I was especially guilty of having a long mental list of “ducks” to have in a row before we tried getting pregnant. I am the type of person who likes to plan, to be very organized, and do plenty of research. I don’t just blindly jump into something without knowing for certain it is what I want to do and that I am prepared to do it. I realized that my desire to start a family outgrew all of the little things to postpone it (otherwise we could have waited forever). I would have always wanted to save more money, taken one more trip just the two of us, move into a bigger apartment, or try to buy a house.
Life happens in the now, so you better start living it or you could be waiting for a future that may never happen. Yes, you do want to be prepared, but if you wait for all your stars to align perfectly you may be waiting too long. We realized that there was never going to be a “perfect” time. We wanted to start a family, and that was the only reason we needed. It also helped to remind myself that we had 40 weeks to accomplish any last minute goals. The baby’s due date was a countdown to an unrelenting deadline, and that helped motivate me to finish the few things I wanted.