As a parent, one of my biggest aspirations is to instill a sense of values and morals in my son and teach him everything I can. You want to impart the best of everything you know in them so they can grow up to be a wonderful person. Even though my son is still an infant, I already know there are certain lessons that I want to teach him and hope that he uses to become a great man one day. Here are 15 lessons that I want to teach my son as he grows.
1) I will always love you no matter what.
Your dad and I will always love you unconditionally. All your triumphs and all your mistakes can’t change our love for you. You have changed our hearts forever and nothing you could ever do could take that away.
2) Know that you can come to me and your dad for anything at any time no matter what it is or how old you get.
I never want you to feel scared or afraid to come to me about anything. No matter what you may have done, or may be feeling, I will always be here for you. And not just when you are little, but for your whole life. No matter how big you get remember that you will always be my little boy and you can come to me with all of your joys and sorrows.
3) Always treat others as you wish to be treated.
If you would not want someone to do something to you, then do not do it to someone else. This works in the reverse as well. If you know that you enjoy something or that something makes you happy then odds are that it will also make someone else happy. Do things for others that you would want done for yourself. Giving joy is just as great as receiving it.
4) Show empathy and respect to everyone.
Having empathy will allow you to relate better to others and therefore treat them with care and kindness. Try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understand how they are feeling or what they are going through. You also need to respect everyone. This does not necessarily mean that you have to agree with everyone or look up to everyone. Rather, it means showing them the respect that they deserve as a human being with beliefs and thoughts, even if they may be different from yours.
5) Never change yourself for someone else, always be true to who you are.
There are a lot of influences in this world telling you to be like someone, act like something, or do something a certain way. It can be hard to fight what society tells you to be sometimes, but remember that you don’t have to be someone you aren’t. In some cases it is harder to be true to yourself but it is always the most rewarding to do so. Never change who you are just to fit in.
6) Find what makes you happy and surround yourself with it.
I hope that you are always happy. Having a happy life and happy surroundings is so important. Try new things, experience new adventures; take that in life which makes you happy, and surround yourself with it. Maybe it will mean living in a certain city, hanging your favorite photograph/art in your house, stocking your fridge with your favorite dessert, playing your favorite video games (like your daddy), or just reading your favorite book.
7) Always think positively.
Having a positive mind set is a choice. Sometimes it is a hard one, but that is when you may need it the most. Being positive and having a positive outlook on life is vital to happiness, living stress-free, and finding peace. If you focus on the negative and surround yourself with negativity (this includes people) then it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Negativity can drag you down and eat away at your soul. Try to look at the world with a positive lens.
8) Respect women in all regards. Period.
Treat women like your equal (because they are). Know that a woman can do anything you can do (and maybe do things better in some cases). And when it comes to a woman you are dating, you are to treat her with respect at all times; respect her mind, respect her body, and respect her wishes.
9) Chivalry is never dead.
This is not to say that women are inferior. Nor does it mean that if you show women chivalry that you are inferior to them. Rather, it shows that you are kind, that you care, and that you are a person who can go out of their way to help. Treat women like they are special to you, because they should be.
10) Don’t follow blindly.
Don’t let others make up your mind for you. Take enough initiative in life to experience/learn/investigate things on your own to make decisions for yourself. Question things in life; ask “why”. Don’t adopt the thoughts of others because that is what you are familiar with, or that is what is convenient, or you don’t want to go against someone. Be true to yourself and form your own opinions and beliefs.
11) Be responsible with money.
Life is not just about money, but money can make you comfortable. It is important to be careful with your money so that you can do what you want in life. Always be responsible with the money; make budgets and stick to them, always keep an emergency savings fund, pay your bills on time, and never go into debt to buy things you want but can’t afford.
12) Know how to do all the chores in the house.
You won’t live with me and your dad forever, and we won’t be doing everything for you when you get older. When you are on your own you will need to know how to take care of yourself and your house. Even when you get married, men and women should share the responsibility of housework equally; you never want to have to depend on anyone anyway.
13) Live in a clean house, don’t be dirty.
Your surroundings effect your emotional and mental state so surround yourself with a clean, fresh, and inspiring home. Living in a dirty, messy house just creates chaos and you won’t be able to enjoy your time there. Your house should always be a place of relaxation, serenity, and calm.
I know your generation will probably do everything from a wireless device permanently attached to your body, but unplug as much as you can. Remember to get outside, read paper books, write in a journal with a pen, look people in the eye and have a face-to-face conversation. The world will not disappear if you turn your phone off, and the world can also get by just fine if you don’t share your entire life on social media.
15) Learn how to cook for yourself.
This one should be fairly easy. Because your dad is a chef I am sure that you will learn all kinds of skills to be a great cook in the kitchen. Don’t rely on eating out for your meals. Cooking will allow you to eat more healthy, and also create meals that you love! Take it from your mom who is a terrible cook (even though your dad tries hopelessly to teach me) that cooking a delicious meal for yourself is a great skill.