The most common theme throughout motherhood seems to be sleep. When you are pregnant people tell you to sleep now while you can. When you have a newborn people are obsessed with asking if they sleep through the night. As a new mom you always get asked if you are sleeping okay or if you are getting enough sleep (ask again in 20 years right?!?). As a new mom you hear about swaddling, sleep training, sleep methods, co-sleeping etc, etc, etc. You get the idea… sleep is a hot topic when you have kids!
In an effort to help you new moms (and dads) out, I have asked certified sleep consultant, Susie Parker, to answer a few burning questions for us about your little one’s sleep! After all, we know that baby sleeping means you can sleep. If you feel that you need help getting your little one to bed then Susie offers consultations and assistance to sleep deprived moms and dads. Check out her site Sleep Baby Love
for more info!
Here were my 5 questions to Susie and her answers:
1. There seems to be an endless discussion about whether or not to let babies cry-it-out. What do you think about this method, and do you know if it really causes any trauma/negative effects?
“CIO is only one component of sleep training and is not necessarily the only method out there… so parents need to become informed which would work best for them and feel confident in their decisions. There is a great study out there that shows that babies that were sleep trained were not any different from their non-sleep trained peers at 5 years old and just using common sense of those that you know that are sleep trained, there is no long lasting harm or effect.
If you’re even going to consider sleep training, I suggest taking a look at this article
first, since it breaks down everything you need to know.”
2. What would you suggest to transition away from nursing to sleep, and teach baby to self-soothe? Especially when the baby does not take any item for comfort (pacifier, blanket, etc.) except mom.
“Until you’re ready to dive right into sleep training, for a baby who doesn’t know how to fall asleep independently, you just have to think of everything as practice. So, keep working with your baby to fall asleep independently. The biggest misconception that I had is that my baby shouldn’t ever cry… and I took that literally. So every time she squeaked, I went in to soothe her. If you give your baby a little space (even if it’s a minute or two), the act of self settling becomes a little easier. The pick up/put down method is also a great way that you can start gently giving your child independent skills.”
3. Is there anything that can be done to help with sleep regressions, most notably the dreaded 4 month sleep regression?
“There will always be set backs with sleep, even for the best sleepers! The 4 month sleep regression is so substantial because it’s due to developmental changes in your baby, most notably your baby becoming more aware. So if you’re nursing or rocking your baby to sleep you may find that it takes much longer to get into that deep sleep. So now is a great time to keep working on independent skills and having your baby sleep in their own room. I have other great advice (and don’t forget to download your survival guide
4. What is your favorite piece of advice you love to give (about sleep) that most people don’t know?
“Sleep challenges don’t end with babies! For many parents (even though they had the best sleeper), there are many reasons that sleep can take a nosedive once they become a toddler and preschooler. The same techniques that I use for sleep training can be used, but you have to incorporate your child into the plans that you make for the best success. For example, you can create a great bedtime routine that your child has some say in to make sleep fun. Always keep the positive spin on sleep. Make sure to get your preschooler sleep made easy checklist
5. What is the one thing you get asked about most, and what is your response?
“There are many questions about sleep!!! But, I think that regardless what the answer is – I always say do what works for you. If sleeping with your child is working for your family, no worries. If getting up many times throughout the night works, don’t worry about it! It’s when it stops working and people ask for advice, they don’t always like the answers I give (since it involves some type of sleep training and people don’t realize that there are gentler methods out there). Regardless, as a parent you should never do something because a sleep consultant, friend or family told you to do something. Do it because you believe it’s the best way to make your family happier and healthier.”
I hope that Susie’s Q&A helped some of you! If you feel like you still have burning questions or really need some one on one help, visit her website Sleep Baby Love, she will be so glad to hear from you! You can also follow her on Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram
Sweet dreams tonight everyone…