Self-Care For Moms: A Necessity, Not A Luxury

This post was written by Suzanna at One Hoolie Mama, where she blogs about family fitness and food. She is a dog lover, amateur cook and photographer, and always tries to offer words of encouragement. Stop by her blog and say hi!

 

As mothers, we spend so much of our time doing things for others and caring for those around us. We give and give, and if we’re not careful and intentional about filling up our own cups, we will run dry. What we must remember, though moms, is that our self-care is not a luxury, it is a necessity.

But what do you do if you don’t have any extra time in your schedule? What about all of those other things on your never-ending to-do list? Consider these simple tips for ways to take better care of yourself:

Have a hobby and take time to enjoy your hobby on a regular basis. Maybe you like to read or take pictures. Maybe you enjoy baking or running. Whatever your hobby is, make sure make the time to spend a few minutes each week on yourself.

Take a bath or a hot shower. Go get a pedicure or paint your nails at home. Get a real haircut or spend an extra five to ten minutes and give yourself a facial or put on a hair mask. Even if you only have ten minutes to yourself, you can do a little pampering.

Tell your significant other when you need a break. Ask him or her to do the dinner or bedtime routines so you can take a walk, have a cup of hot coffee or tea, or spend fifteen minutes doing whatever recharges your batteries. If your significant other isn’t available or you don’t have a significant other to help, make sure to take some time to yourself after your little one falls asleep. There will always be dishes to do or chores to be done, but taking ten or fifteen minutes to yourself will help you be more productive and focused throughout the rest of your day. Make yourself a priority.

None of us want to be a cranky or stressed out mom, so we have to remember that the time we take to care for ourselves has to be a priority. We must fill our own tanks so that we can continue to nurture others. Mama, you must take a few minutes each day to take care of yourself.

What is your favorite form of self-care? When was the last time you took a nice, hot bath?  

 

Written by Suzanna at One Hoolie Mama

Surviving The Newborn Stage

Caring for a newborn is an experience that truly tests your mental and emotional well being. On one hand you are beyond ecstatic about your brand new bundle of joy and over the moon happy that they are finally here. On the other hand you have no idea what you are doing and just trying to figure it out as you go; maybe trying to remember some helpful tips you read, although your sleep-deprived brain is making it hard to remember anything (like what day it is). You have just been through hours of very physically demanding labor and trying to recover all while your new baby needs you and wants to eat every two hours. You are trying to rest and recuperate while also getting to know your little one and bond with him/her. Needless to say you may be a little frazzled! So how do you survive the newborn stage without losing your wits?

Just remember the number 2… Just keep reminding yourself that each stage is only temporary, and it will be over soon enough. Don’t panic. Just when you think ‘I can’t take any more of this‘, remember that your baby will soon develop into another stage and his/her behavior and habits will evolve. It all boils down to focusing on getting to the next thing (the next feeding, nap, shower, day). I found that I was just focusing on one feeding at a time, which for me was every two hours. For those first two weeks, just think about getting to the next feeding which means only worrying about two hours at a time. You can make it through two hours right? Of course! That seems much more manageable right?

Now, just when you start to think how long will this last, just when you wonder if you can keep this up, remember that the next step is to take everything 2 weeks at a time. It seemed like every two weeks, my son would grow and develop into new patterns, habits, and abilities. The first big one was sleep; after two weeks he started sleeping for longer stretches of time at night and I felt like I was regaining some of my sanity back. Then the next two weeks were actually really tough. My son turned from a quiet, peaceful angel into a very fussy, loud, crying baby that seemed inconsolable. I wondered if I watered him by accident and he turned into a gremlin… But again just when I thought that I could not survive the crying anymore, he began to have more calm moments without me rocking him in the bathroom with the exhaust fan on (praise my husband for finding that trick!).

The last and most important ‘2’ is people; you are not alone, you have help! There is (hopefully) another person with you and baby 24/7 to lean on and help. This person may be your spouse, partner, parent, or even friend, but you will have at least one person to go through this with. I was lucky enough to not only have my husband home, but my mom flew out for the first two weeks as well. With two people you can take “shifts” with baby. You can take turns sleeping, showering, eating, etc. You may even ask to have someone else take a few shifts in a row and only call on you when baby is hungry (unless you are bottle feeding). My husband was amazing with our son, he truly should win a medal for how much he helped and took charge of everything so that I didn’t have to think about it. Remember that it took two of you to make a baby, so it makes sense that two of you equally care for the baby too! I know some dads are hesitant and maybe a bit scared, but ASK FOR HELP IF YOU NEED IT!

I hope this helps any expecting moms feel a little more at ease about bringing a newborn home. Just remember to take it two hours at a time, two weeks at a time, with two people to do it together! Nothing lasts forever so don’t get too overwhelmed. You will look back on this time like it was a blink of an eye.