As a new parent it is understandable that your time is now dedicated to taking care of your precious new baby. Maybe WAY MORE time than you could have imagined… It is so easy to put yourself last with a new baby (or any aged child really), but it is so important to dedicate some “me time” for yourself now more than ever!
Are you a burned out mom? Then I challenge you!
Does this sound familiar; you are tired from getting up all night, you have not showered in a few days, wearing an oversized T-shirt and pajama bottoms, and have your greasy hair pulled back in a ponytail? Yes, I may be describing myself at the present moment, but I know that there are too many other moms who can say the same (please tell me I’m not the only one!!!). So in my own efforts to regain some sanity, I have created a 30 day “me time” challenge for burned out moms to help promote self-care and let you recharge your batteries. After all, you can’t take care of a baby if you haven’t taken care of yourself first and foremost.
As a full-time mom or dad (especially of an infant or a high needs baby) we really don’t get a lot of free time during the day. At 9 months, my little man really does demand a lot of my time because he does not want to be left alone for more than about 5 minutes; and when he was really little he did not want to be put down at all… I recently found myself waking up every one or two hours at night with him thanks to one of his lovely sleep regressions, but it seemed to last for many many weeks (thankfully he is sleeping better than ever- blog post about our sleep training success to follow). I was exhausted during the day and was giving up the time in the evening I took for myself in order to get in bed asap before he woke up again.
If this sounds like you, and you are needing to focus on some self-care, then I challenge you to join me in my 30 Day “Me Time” Challenge for Burned Out Moms! (your sanity and your spouse will thank you)
Here’s how it works:
I have created a list of “me time” activities/ideas; very simple ways to put yourself first during the day in hopes to help you recharge your batteries. Complete one task each day, do them in any order you want, until they are all complete. If one of the activities isn’t up your alley then substitute it for your own idea, because it is not so much the specific activity that’s important but the fact that doing it will bring you happiness and make you feel good!
Each day, along with doing one activity, you should also take a few minutes to journal. Give a different answer to each of the following questions every day: 1. write something you are thankful for, 2. something that makes you happy, 3. something positive about yourself, and 4. what you did for yourself that day. This part of the challenge will help you appreciate what you have in your life, help you focus on the positive, and remind you of things that bring you joy.
Next, make sure when you start you tell your husband/spouse/significant other. This is important for two reasons. First, it will ensure they understand what you are trying to accomplish and can help you! Second, telling someone a goal will drastically improve your likelihood that you will follow through and accomplish it.
Last but not least, I want to hear what you are doing for your “me time”! Leave me a comment below, or find me on social media (links on main menu) and share with me any thoughts/feelings/feedback throughout your challenge or pics of you enjoying your time! Tag me in your post or use the hashtag #30DayMeTimeChallenge. I will also be sharing my journey through the 30 day challenge on social media so be sure to follow me on twitter/facebook/instagram to hear about it.
It takes at least 21 days to make something a habit. My hope for you at the end of this challenge is that it will become a habit for you to think of yourself during the day, and to focus on the positive in your life!
Without further ado…
HERE ARE YOUR DAILY “ME TIME” CHALLENGES:
- Go outside in the sunshine. Get out of the house!!! Don’t become a hermit; take a walk, have a picnic, and soak up some vitamin D.
- Read a book or magazine; take an extra-long bathroom break with a magazine, read for 15 minutes before bed, or read while baby naps.
- Call a friend on the phone/video chat. Remember to stay connected to the outside world and to have adult conversations with people who can talk back .
- Do something creative; color a page from an adult coloring book, color a mandala, do a zen doodle.
- Take a nap (without baby). Usually my little man has to nap on me and sometimes I will doze off too, but take a nap without baby so you can sleep properly and uninterrupted.
- Sleep in; let daddy take baby in the morning.
- Take a long shower or bubble bath; wash/condition your hair, shave, pull out all the stops that you usually skimp on because baby is waiting for you.
- Have a date night with hubby while someone else watches the baby. It doesn’t have to be a long outing- go to a movie, grab some dinner, or even stay in if you’re not comfortable leaving home without baby yet (but at least go in another part of the house from your sitter)!
- Treat yourself to a favorite dessert or sweet treat.
- Get a haircut, or style your hair for the day. Nothing makes you feel refreshed quite like getting a fresh hairdo.
- Have hubby give you a massage or go get one at a spa. Holding a baby all day can be quite a work out so let someone relax you.
- Eat a special meal; take the time to make something you love (not something that has to be defrosted, reheated, or delivered) or splurge and grab a bite to eat out.
- Try to take an afternoon or even a day “off”; someone takes baby as often as they can between feedings if breastfeeding, or when baby really needs you.
- Take a picture of yourself that makes you feel beautiful so you can look back at this time and feel good about yourself.
- Make sure the house is clean and organized so you don’t feel overwhelmed in a mess; peaceful surroundings makes for a peaceful mind. I know what you’re thinking, cleaning is not your idea of “me time”, but it is about the effects of having a clean house that will bring you joy rather than the task of cleaning. You can even hire someone to come in and clean for you 😉
- Paint your nails/get a manicure so you feel pampered.
- Write a letter to your baby to give them when they are grown, and write your birth story down so you don’t forget it.
- Write down any worries/fears/frustrations/anxieties and then destroy the paper (*please be very careful if you burn it, I am not advocating any action that will be dangerous, and for goodness sake don’t do anything like this with baby close by)
- Find a mom group to join, and/or reach out to another mom to make a mom friend. You can find lots of groups on facebook or meetup that have regular outings and play dates to join.
- Treat yourself to something you want, not need. It does not have to be something huge or expensive, but something just for you.
- Do something to make your bedroom more peaceful and comfortable; you are not getting much sleep so the sleep you do get should be enjoyable! You could treat yourself to new sheets for your bed, a new pillow, or comfy blanket. You could use aromatherapy like lavender to create a tranquil space; you can buy lavender sachets or lavender pillow spray. Also, just cleaning your room and putting out things that you enjoy (pictures, trinkets, fluffy pillows) can go a long way in creating a restful space, as well as rearranging your room so that it feels different and new.
- Enjoy a hot cup of tea or coffee.
- Put on your favorite music, sing out loud and dance no matter how silly you may feel.
- Buy yourself fresh flowers for the house.
- Write yourself love notes/words of encouragement/inspirational quotes, and leave them around the house for you to see through the day.
- Work out.
- Find a park near you and take baby for a walk.
- Unplug for an entire day; forget social media, just have a day where you focus on you and your baby.
- Take a day trip out as a family; you don’t have to go far but just get out of the house and find something fun to do together.
If you have chosen to take the challenge and I am so excited and hope it helps give you a little more time to yourself! Can’t wait to hear from you on your journey, and feel free to share with any other burned out moms you know 😉
As a thank you, here is a FREE Printable to easily keep track of your challenge.